Passing judgment is so unsexy. It doesn’t flatter anyone.
It’s something that I’ve grown to have almost no tolerance for, which is ironically kind of a judgmental behavior.
It’s human nature to talk shit and my guess is that we do it because we like to feel better about ourselves. Sometimes the fastest way to get there is by chopping someone else down.
When we judge someone or something – we are making the assumption that we know everything there is to know about that person or thing. We might say something like: “Look at what she’s wearing. She must want attention.”
Maybe she does. What’s wrong with wanting attention? Maybe it makes her feel beautiful and, I don’t know about you but, I think feeling beautiful is pretty great. The bottom line is that we have no idea why she’s wearing it.
Making a judgment call about something we don’t fully understand seems kinda silly, doesn’t it? Aren’t we all flawed in one way or another? Don’t we all fall short sometimes? So why do we feel the need to chime in with opinions about other people’s lives? In the words of Ted Lasso quoting Walt Whitman – “be curious, not judgmental.”
If you want to know about someone or something – just ask. Get informed. Get to know people. Open your mind. Open your heart. Open your eyes.
And if you don’t agree with something – that’s okay. You can disagree. You can think that it’s not your cup of tea, but remember that it might be someone else’s only choice. Our stories are not identical. We don’t all have the same upbringings, support systems, or resources. We are all out here just trying to survive. What makes a difference in my life might leave you completely unaffected. Live and let live.