Hello and good day to you!
If you haven’t heard the latest rumor on the street, I released my podcast (This is EZ With Friends) last Tuesday. I did so only after a heated debate with myself about whether it was ready or not. No better time than the present is what I’m told. I clicked the publish button and away it went with a little prayer that it would land softly somewhere.
The first episode was about toxic relationships. My guest, Kim Lopez, has been my friend for over ten years. She witnessed a few toxic relationships of mine while dealing with one of her own. We were young and, for whatever reason, we were fighting to keep our crappy relationships afloat. Embarrassment coupled with the fear of being alone left us feeling like we couldn’t talk to each other or anybody else about what we were going through.
There’s a lot of pressure to make relationships work. The longer we’re in them, the harder it is to cut them off. What will people think? What does failing at a relationship say about me? Where am I going to go? What if I hurt the other person? What if I can’t handle being alone? I asked myself all of these questions. I had a list of reasons for staying and none of them had anything to do with my happiness or comfort.
The episode is not designed to get everyone to break up with their significant other, but it is a call to action. It’s a reminder that we should always be true to ourselves. We should be vigilant about the things that make us uncomfortable and trust that if something feels wrong, it probably is. We should trust our gut and ask the difficult questions like:
Am I happy?
Are my needs being met?
Do I feel like I can be completely myself around this person?
Can I see myself having children/growing old with this person?
Am I my best self in this relationship?
We recorded the episode with the intention of making people in the same predicaments feel less alone. Maybe hearing about how we eventually walked away might get some people to walk away sooner than we did. Nothing wrong with choosing yourself and your own happiness, honey! Don’t waste another minute in misery.
If you’re interested in listening to the episode, click here. It should now be available on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, and Spotify. Enjoy! Feedback appreciated.